Scientific American Mind
January/February 2011
Get Attached
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Levine & Heller
Attachment theory designates three main styles in which individuals perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships, which parallel those found in children.
Attachment is an integral part of human behavior throughout their entire life span.
Adults can be divided into attachment categories according ot the way they recall their relationship with their caregivers, which in turn influences their parental behavior.
Patterns of Attachment
Anxious
Avoident
Secure
Basically, secure people find it easy to get close to others, feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Anxious people crave intimacy, are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back or to stay with them.
Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs.
When their emotional needs are met, they usually turn their attention outward.
This result is sometimes referred to as the "dependency paradox", the more effectively dependent people are on one another, the more independent and creative they become.
Unfortunaltely the significance of adult attachment goes unappreciated. Among adults, the prevailing notion is still that too much dependence in a relationship is a bad thing.
The opposite is true. Our ability to step into the world on our own often stems from the knowledge that there is someone beside us on whom we can rely.
If you want to take the road to independence and happiness, first find the right person to depend on and then travel down it together.
How can you tell what attachment style a person has?
Does the other person show a sincere wish to understand your needs and put your well-being first?
Do they brush aside your concerns or make you feel inadequate, foolish or self-indulgent?
Do you spell out your needs so it is easy for your partner to meet them?
Do you make your partner guess whether something is wrong and then make them guess what that something is?
Begin by determining your own and your partners attachment style to find more security in your relationship.
Take the ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZ
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Are you looking for help in solving your problems and achieving your goals?
At Hypnosis Seattle, my goal is to help you make positive changes in your life and get the good feelings you want, with more success and less stress.
Safe and effective, hypnosis uses leading edge science to make positive changes happen in your life. Did you know that through hypnosis you can free your subconscious mind to give you what you want?
Hypnosis allows you to enter a wonderful state of relaxation and heightened suggestibility. This will help you feel better, more energized and feel positive about creating whatever you desire in your life.
What are you willing to give yourself, and accept for yourself? Any thoughts and ideas that may have been troubling you, or your inability to reach your goal, can change to something that supports you completely.
Now I would like to help you experience how to use your mind to achieve what you want, make changes, reduce stress, break old habits and feel good about yourself.
You probably know that learning and change take place at an unconscious level. Hypnosis allows you to easily access the creative part of yourself. See yourself making new choices.
Discover how hypnosis will bypass your critical mind and create a special psychological state which allows you to learn, grow and make positive change happen quickly and easily.
Leaving you free at a conscious level to relax and enjoy your experience during your hypnosis session. It will happen automatically so you don’t have to think about it now.
Begin by exploring what would be wonderful for you to achieve or change?
* ACCOMPLISH GOALS
* GET RID OF OLD HABITS & BEHAVIOR
* REVERSE THE EFFECTS OF STRESS
* STRENGTHEN YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
* GET THE RESULTS YOU WANT
* ATTRACT YOUR SOUL MATE
* CREATE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS
* ENHANCE PERSONAL GROWTH
* BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE
* HEAL YOUR EMOTIONS
* NURTURE YOURSELF
Many clients have multiple issues that come up even if they come in with only one problem they want to solve. Hypnosis and the other processes I use are able to resolve complex issues on every level, even if you are not consciously aware of them.
Some clients discover the cause of one problem and clear it and find that other issues are resolved as well. I call it "extra wellness" when several problems get resolved while you are working on another.
Balance your body, mind and spirit, reduce the effects of stress, and heal your emotions with fun, easy, safe and effective processes that work on an unconscious level.
Call or contact me now. CLICK HERE!
I look forward to helping each client solve their problems and so much more.
Take care, Sally
P.S.
Why not claim your right to happiness right now?
Smile and look forward to a new future.
Do good things.
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